Four reasons you’re still disorganized

1. You are denying disorganization is affecting your life in a negative way.

2. You are comparing your organizational skills to reality show hoarders.

3. You are blaming your family for the mess you’re in.

4. You are minimizing the problem and the gifts you possess to solve them.

In Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) it speaks of the four defenses an alcoholic uses while he/she continues to drink. In Get Your Act Together, I wrote how SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives) use the same defenses to remain in a mess.

There is really no difference except for the outcome… drunk or disorderly.

Like an alcoholic, once a SHE stops using the four defenses, she is then able to change. Could one of these defenses be holding you back from the life

1. You are denying disorganization is affecting your life in a negative way.

2. You are comparing your organizational skills to reality show hoarders.

3. You are blaming your family for the mess you’re in.

4. You are minimizing the problem and the gifts you possess to solve them.

In Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) it speaks of the four defenses an alcoholic uses while he/she continues to drink. In Get Your Act Together, I wrote how SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives) use the same defenses to remain in a mess.

There is really no difference except for the outcome… drunk or disorderly.

Like an alcoholic, once a SHE stops using the four defenses, she is then able to change. Could one of these defenses be holding you back from the life you want to live?

1. Denial

You probably don’t deny you’re in a mess, but I know when I was living in chaos, I acted like it didn’t bother me. Haven’t you heard the classic messy person’s excuse for a messy desk say, “I know where everything is on my desk!” Yeah right! Denial!

I also remember a constant desire to get out of the house and go play. My three kids and I spent much of our time outside, where I didn’t have to face the mess in the house. While at the park it was easy to deny I had a problem, but I always had to come home to the truth.

2. Rationalization

If you find yourself making excuses by comparing yourself to someone you know who is more disorganized than you, it pro-bably makes you feel better, but it won’t help you change.

Don’t watch those reality shows featuring hoarders and extre-mely messed up people. You are not like that (If you are, my writing will not help you very much. The hoarders I’ve seen in my career helping SHEs have severe mental disorders and I’m not a psychiatrist, so I have no business trying to help those people.). I think you just want to be organized just enough to have a neat, cozy, peaceful home to play in with your family.

3. Projection

Blame is a great defense. "I didn't do it, he did it!"

Blame the mess on the kids. Blame it on your husband. Blame it on your mom because she didn’t teach you. Blame will give you years of status quo.

4. Minimization

I’m guilty of minimizing disorganization but mainly because I’ve learned that most of us SHEs make such a big deal about it, we can afford a little of this defense as long as we seek to be organized just enough to please us.

On the same subject, we SHEs tend to minimize our talents and God-given gifts of creativity, and fun-loving spirits.

I knew in the depths of my pigpen days that if I used my creativity, I could get out of the mess I was in and have enough money to hire a person to help with the housework part of running a home.

If you’ve made the decision to get organized (I hope it’s going to be just enough to please you) and you drop your defenses, take on the project with joy.

Decide to have fun on this project. Treat it like a hobby. Ask for help from BOs (Born Organized) who come by it naturally. Don’t’ allow anyone to cause you do doubt your ability to succeed.

Change for selfish reasons … to be free to play, and enjoy the liberation of knowing you are on top of the game, not floundering somewhere underneath it.

For more from Pam Young go to www.cluborganized.com. You’ll find many musings, videos of Pam in the kitchen preparing delicious meals, videos on how to get organized, lose weight and get your finances in order, all from a reformed SLOB’s point of view.